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		<title>By: Carl</title>
		<link>http://www.sinosplice.com/life/archives/2006/07/11/good-people-at-bad-times#comment-11089</link>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 May 2009 06:06:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;I think as someone who has been in China for quite some time, you have gained a lot of insight that I don&#039;t have yet. Thanks for sharing the story, tolerance is something we all need to work on.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think as someone who has been in China for quite some time, you have gained a lot of insight that I don&#8217;t have yet. Thanks for sharing the story, tolerance is something we all need to work on.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: Baifameizhong</title>
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		<dc:creator>Baifameizhong</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 14 Dec 2008 12:58:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;The phenomena of mis-attributing is called the &lt;a href=&quot;http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ultimate_attribution_error&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;ultimate attribution error&lt;/a&gt;. The example John gave is an excellent description of what it means....we tend to attribute certain behaviour we happen to see as a character (flaw) of that person. When we see a man pulling a small child roughly we will first say that that man is quite rough, a bad father etc....We would not first consider the option that the son had been misbehaving for hours and the father was under a lot of pressure because his wife is seriously ill.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;What is actually really interesting about this attribution error is that it is more common in Western cultures than in Asian cultures. In other words, a Chinese is less likely to make that error than a European or American.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The phenomena of mis-attributing is called the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ultimate_attribution_error" rel="nofollow">ultimate attribution error</a>. The example John gave is an excellent description of what it means&#8230;.we tend to attribute certain behaviour we happen to see as a character (flaw) of that person. When we see a man pulling a small child roughly we will first say that that man is quite rough, a bad father etc&#8230;.We would not first consider the option that the son had been misbehaving for hours and the father was under a lot of pressure because his wife is seriously ill.</p>

<p>What is actually really interesting about this attribution error is that it is more common in Western cultures than in Asian cultures. In other words, a Chinese is less likely to make that error than a European or American.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: Green dragon</title>
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		<dc:creator>Green dragon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Jul 2008 03:03:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;Hey great post!&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;I think that it is truly rare for someone to do what you have done coming from a non-Chinese background.  I certainly hope more of the foreign visitors who generalize all Chinese as rude get the chance to read this.  I&#039;ll certainly pass this around to anyone I hear badmouthing China.  &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Before anyone jumps on me for the praise, I&#039;m half foreign half Chinese and was raised raised western style.  I think Michelle is right that not many Chinese will comment on foreign blogs with negative comments because they are afraid of damaging their own and China&#039;s reputation through using what they think to be poor English.  I wish more fluent English speakers would practice this on youtube when they proceed to bash China videos using only swear words, empty rhetoric and downright disgusting condescention.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey great post!</p>

<p>I think that it is truly rare for someone to do what you have done coming from a non-Chinese background.  I certainly hope more of the foreign visitors who generalize all Chinese as rude get the chance to read this.  I&#8217;ll certainly pass this around to anyone I hear badmouthing China.  </p>

<p>Before anyone jumps on me for the praise, I&#8217;m half foreign half Chinese and was raised raised western style.  I think Michelle is right that not many Chinese will comment on foreign blogs with negative comments because they are afraid of damaging their own and China&#8217;s reputation through using what they think to be poor English.  I wish more fluent English speakers would practice this on youtube when they proceed to bash China videos using only swear words, empty rhetoric and downright disgusting condescention.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: Jenny Zhu</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jenny Zhu</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 16:40:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;I had the same experience last week, except that I was the good person at bad times. It was a Friday night in a busy restaurant where I was ignored despite patiently and repeatedly asking for a menu. After waiting for 20 minutes or so, I lost my patience and raised my voice. Eventhough that got things done, I felt extremely guilty and overcompensated by being extra friendly with the waiters. Should have apologised instead. It does take quite a bit of courage to admit that you were being a bit of a jerk.
John, you have the patience and tolerance of a saint.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I had the same experience last week, except that I was the good person at bad times. It was a Friday night in a busy restaurant where I was ignored despite patiently and repeatedly asking for a menu. After waiting for 20 minutes or so, I lost my patience and raised my voice. Eventhough that got things done, I felt extremely guilty and overcompensated by being extra friendly with the waiters. Should have apologised instead. It does take quite a bit of courage to admit that you were being a bit of a jerk.
John, you have the patience and tolerance of a saint.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: April</title>
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		<dc:creator>April</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Oct 2007 09:17:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;I think there are always young girls in convenience stores. They tend to be quite polite and customer-oriented.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think there are always young girls in convenience stores. They tend to be quite polite and customer-oriented.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: Megan</title>
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		<dc:creator>Megan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 17 Sep 2007 12:28:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;Beautiful post, John. Crankiness is not a trait limited to one nation&#039;s people, and neither, you&#039;ve illustrated, are compassion and conciliation.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Beautiful post, John. Crankiness is not a trait limited to one nation&#8217;s people, and neither, you&#8217;ve illustrated, are compassion and conciliation.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: JoeUSA</title>
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		<dc:creator>JoeUSA</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jul 2007 07:35:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;My pet peave is getting a taxi.  When I leave work each day it is usually in rush hour and taxis are in short supply.  All passing with passengers already.  As I stand, sometimes in the rain, waiting for one to come up with its red &quot;available&quot; light burning several people have arrived standing near me waiting just as I am. Being an American I expect the &quot;first come, first serve&quot; basis to apply, but it doesn&#039;t.  If you are not really quick someone will step in front of you and jump into the taxi that you were patiently waiting to unload their exisiting passenger.  But I endure, after all - I am the outsider here. Sometimes I bark at the intruder, but it does no good, and only tends to make me unhappy. So I just try to endure.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My pet peave is getting a taxi.  When I leave work each day it is usually in rush hour and taxis are in short supply.  All passing with passengers already.  As I stand, sometimes in the rain, waiting for one to come up with its red &#8220;available&#8221; light burning several people have arrived standing near me waiting just as I am. Being an American I expect the &#8220;first come, first serve&#8221; basis to apply, but it doesn&#8217;t.  If you are not really quick someone will step in front of you and jump into the taxi that you were patiently waiting to unload their exisiting passenger.  But I endure, after all &#8211; I am the outsider here. Sometimes I bark at the intruder, but it does no good, and only tends to make me unhappy. So I just try to endure.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
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		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 16 Jul 2006 02:47:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;Hi the humanaught,&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;You certainly have read my blog, and I really don&#039;t pretend to ignore those negative opions. I didn&#039;t praise John, just I agreed with him like many people did, and most of them, I thought they are not Chinese. Moreover, in my opinion the reason that Chinese readership is often quiet for your complaint, is for firstly there are few Chinese people read your articles, secondly their English is not good enough to argue with you. (Of course, I didn&#039;t mean my English is good enough, I just tried my best.) And if you want to hear more Chinese readership&#039;s opinion, my advice is you can write them in Chinese. Then you can get more explanations that you want.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Regards,&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;-Michelle&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi the humanaught,</p>

<p>You certainly have read my blog, and I really don&#8217;t pretend to ignore those negative opions. I didn&#8217;t praise John, just I agreed with him like many people did, and most of them, I thought they are not Chinese. Moreover, in my opinion the reason that Chinese readership is often quiet for your complaint, is for firstly there are few Chinese people read your articles, secondly their English is not good enough to argue with you. (Of course, I didn&#8217;t mean my English is good enough, I just tried my best.) And if you want to hear more Chinese readership&#8217;s opinion, my advice is you can write them in Chinese. Then you can get more explanations that you want.</p>

<p>Regards,</p>

<p>-Michelle</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: The Humanaught</title>
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		<dc:creator>The Humanaught</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 15 Jul 2006 02:51:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;The coveted Chinese praise... nice work John... you&#039;re going to get that &lt;strong&gt;Friend of China&lt;/strong&gt; plaque now ;-) Just teasing of course. It&#039;s funny though that on the number of blogs I read when negative opions about China are posted, the Chinese readership is often quiet (in my opinion because there&#039;s no arguing it), but when a laowai posts good things about China much praise is given (not just this article, Michelle, but just in general) for how kind and fair the laowai is to the Chinese people...&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;This isn&#039;t a rant or anything, just a curious observation. Personally, I want more explanations for the crazy behavior we so often comment on in these blogs...&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The coveted Chinese praise&#8230; nice work John&#8230; you&#8217;re going to get that <strong>Friend of China</strong> plaque now <img src='http://www.sinosplice.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' />  Just teasing of course. It&#8217;s funny though that on the number of blogs I read when negative opions about China are posted, the Chinese readership is often quiet (in my opinion because there&#8217;s no arguing it), but when a laowai posts good things about China much praise is given (not just this article, Michelle, but just in general) for how kind and fair the laowai is to the Chinese people&#8230;</p>

<p>This isn&#8217;t a rant or anything, just a curious observation. Personally, I want more explanations for the crazy behavior we so often comment on in these blogs&#8230;</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
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		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Jul 2006 03:19:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;Hi John,&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;You are very nice and understanding person. As a Chinese, I thank for your fair and correct opinions.&lt;/p&gt;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi John,</p>

<p>You are very nice and understanding person. As a Chinese, I thank for your fair and correct opinions.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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